I have no doubt that when it comes to getting a good mom, I hit the lottery. My mom is my strongest supporter. She has been by my side through all of my struggles and has stood proudly by my side to celebrate my accomplishments. I believe that my successes would have been far fewer had I not had her to encourage me, to cheer me on, and to give me a swift kick in the rear when I was wallowing.
I've always taken for granted that my mom will have the right words for every situation. When I first began to talk about amputation as an option, she never showed any weakness. She remained strong and confident in my decision during times when I was full of doubt and fear. In retrospect, I probably would have fallen apart completely if she had demonstrated anything but absolute confidence that I was making the correct decision.
Now that I'm a mom, I am in awe at her ability to maintain her emotions during that difficult time. I wonder if I would be as strong for Robby? I don't know how she did it, but I am forever grateful for her steadfast support.
Anybody who knows my mom always ends up respecting her. In college, she was the one that my friends would call when they couldn't confide in their own parents. I always felt a little sad for them because I couldn't fathom having that type of closed relationship a parent.
I've always been able to talk to her about everything, big or small in my life. I still talk to my mom daily- not because I haven't "cut the umbilical cord" but because I like chatting with her. She makes me laugh!
I remember a conversation I had with my Mom about three years ago. I explained that I was feeling frustrated because I didn't know any other amputee parents. I wanted to do something bigger, to reach out, and to help other amputees. I wanted to create a community, a place where ideas could be shared, and encouragement and support would abound. It was during that phone call that this blog was born. She is my greatest support and fan, and I know that I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for her.
Yesterday was my mom's birthday. I wanted to be able to visit and spend the day with her, but between Robby's school schedule and my work obligations, it just wasn't feasible. I'm going to see her today though, and hope to make up for missing her special day.