About Me
- Peggy
- I am a below knee amputee. More importantly, I am also Mommy to two boys, a very active 10 year old (Robby) and an mischievous toddler (Timmy). I have learned that being a parent with a disability can create some unusual and sometimes humorous situations. This blogger is available for hire! Let's talk and learn how a blog can expand your business.
Friday, July 10, 2015
Mountain Adventures
With three adults and five children, my Mom's house is crowded. The
congestion isn't too bad when the kiddos are playing outside, but when
everybody is inside, it tends to feel overwhelming. In order to give the
cousins time to run and expend some of their pent up energy and for me
to soak up some sun in a different environment, yesterday afternoon we
packed up and went to a local ski resort which touts various climbing
and outdoor activities. It is a fantastic place for the friends to run
around, climb, tumble and explore.
My niece and Robby
immediately paired up and took off for the ski lift. My youngest nephew
ran into some friends and quickly joined their group. While I was happy
to see everybody playing and having fun, I was saddened when I realized
that Jacob, my oldest nephew, was alone. While Mountain Adventures is a
great place to explore when you're a kid, I knew that it probably wasn't
a lot of fun when you were alone. I was forced to abandon my
aspirations of relaxing on the lodge deck and accepted that I would
assume the role of playmate for a precocious nine year old boy.
We
began the afternoon with a ride down the "wet ball." The wet ball is
essentially a giant inflatable with a hallowed out center that is
partially filled with cold water. Jacob and I climbed into the orb,
which was no small feat considering the size of the opening compared to
the size of my bum. Sitting in the pool of ice cold water inside the
giant ball, I was dreading what I knew I was about to experience. In a
flash the gate was opened and we were pushed down the hill. The only
good thing, other than the happiness that it brought Jacob, was the fact
that everybody assumed my pants were wet from splashing in the ball and
nobody suspected my lack of bladder control due to fear. I have to
admit that I also enjoyed the looks of shock from the spectators at the
bottom of the hill when they saw a one-legged middle age woman crawl out
of the ball.
After the tumbling down the hill, we
switched gears and tackled the obstacle course. From there we went zip
lining, swinging and got lost in the maze. I knew that he was having a
blast which is what kept me going. Climbing on logs, up nets and rock
walls and through rope tunnels on a prosthetic is not an easy task. My
calf muscle in my stump was firing so much that towards the end of the
day I was battling cramps as well as exhaustion.
With
each obstacle and activity Jacob asked, "Aunt Peggy, can you do this
with one leg?" I responded in my typical style. "Of course I can. Let me
show you." Yesterday, I was a great Aunt. Not only did I help save
his day, but I proved that a "disability" doesn't have to become an
excuse.
Thursday, July 09, 2015
Interview Plan
Yesterday
afternoon, almost as soon as I arrived at my Mom's house, I had to pass
off Timmy so that I could take a phone call. While I felt guilty
handing over my little troublemaker so quickly, I wanted to take full
advantage of the opportunity that had arisen. I was being interviewed by
a reporter for the Washington Post, and I wanted to make sure that I
portrayed the community to the best of my ability. Unfortunately, the
requirement for my achieving "the best of my ability" usually means
passing off the reins to my children for the duration.
Luckily
Timmy was happy to see his Nana and was content to entertain her while I
was on the phone. I expected a 10-15 minute interview. It turns out
that the reporter's "few quick questions" coupled with my desire to
raise awareness about insurance fairness forged quite a lengthy
conversation. We were on the phone for over an hour!
The
original subject of the interview was phantom limb pain. While I did
answer quite a few questions about the topic, I was happy that I was
able to divert the conversation on more than one occasion. I know that
the reporter took note of the other issues, and I am hopeful that they
will be addressed in her article. Even if they are not featured in this
piece, I know that I planted the seed for another story. Hopefully my
plan will come to fruition.
Wednesday, July 08, 2015
Getting Away
The
boys have been on summer vacation for a little over two weeks. It has
been nice having them home, but I have to admit that so far the vacation
hasn't been as stress free as I had anticipated. Between traveling,
both boys being sick, and a myriad of other factors, the only ones who
have been soaking up the Summer of Awesome II are the boys. Scott and I
have been feeling the brunt of parental and adult pressures, and it is
beginning to wear us down. We are both stressed, tired and snapping at
each other. Needless to say, I think we need a vacation from our summer
vacation!
Today I'm packing up the boys and heading to
visit my Mom for a few days. This mini-vacation offers the respite that
we both need while allowing me some much needed time hanging out with
my Mom. I know that Robby is thoroughly looking forward to playing with
his cousins. He has been busy making plans since I told him that we
were going to visit, which apparently includes my getting into a giant
inflatable ball with him and being pushed down the side of a large hill.
(I retained final veto depending upon the size of both the hill and the
ball.)
I've missed visiting my Mom, and I'm
thoroughly looking forward to just hanging out and talking. She always
makes me laugh, and my anxieties seem to melt away whenever I visit. No
matter how old I get, I always benefit from going home. (Besides, Hamlet is in an "I don't need to sleep" mode and I could really use a nap.)
Scott
will be staying at home, enjoying a quiet house and hopefully taking
the opportunity to tackle some of our looming projects. (We have been
trying to clean up from the lightning strike a few weeks ago and, if the
weather cooperates, I'm hoping that the only remnants when I return
home are the damaged trees.) More than anything that could be
accomplished around the house, I hope that he is able to decompress and
relax. After all, he is supposed to be on vacation!
Tuesday, July 07, 2015
Toss 'em Over
Yesterday can be summed up in one word: exhausting. Little Timmy woke
up early, ready to explore and play. Of course, play has a different
definition for a one year old. His preferred "play" activity involves
tossing items down the steps to watch them bounce, emptying my kitchen
cabinets of all the Tupperware and plastic bowls, and trying to play in
the cat food.
I spent much of my day chasing after
him, picking up mess that he left in his wake as he meandered from room
to room. Scott had to clear the stairs of everything that he had tossed
over the rail before making his way to the landing. By the time he
crossed over the gate his hands were overflowing with an eclectic
variety of objects. Basically, anything that is colorful or bounces has
a fair chance of being tossed down the stairs by my inquisitive little
Hamlet.
Obviously Timmy failed to understand my
lecture about the dangers of leaving toys scattered because he seemed to
go out of his way to create obstacles. I have tried to teach him the
fun of putting toys into baskets, but so far he has proven to be a poor
student. If he doesn't embrace the joys of cleaning up soon, somebody
(probably me) will be hurt.
Monday, July 06, 2015
Rock On
Last week Scott and I went out for the evening. We didn't realize until
we were actually out of the house that it had been nearly 4 years since
we went on a proper date night. I wish we go out together more often,
but our lacking a babysitter certainly puts a damper on those
aspirations. Because we were going to a concert and we were
anticipating a late night, my Mom came down to watch the boys.
The
last time I went to a concert it was to see the Wiggles, so watching
Tesla, Styx and Def Leppard was certainly a switch. Scott was beyond
excited about the lineup, and while it isn't my type of music, I was
content to see him so happy. Although I love music, I lean towards
country and Billy Joel whereas Scott enjoys more edgier genres. Needless
to say, I was definitely pushed out of my comfort zone.
I
felt like a fish out of water, not knowing the majority of the songs
and unsure about concert etiquette. I felt as if I was playing follow
the leader as I tried to emulate Scott's movements. Unfortunately,
since my "rocking out" was not authentic, I was slightly out of unison
with the sold out crowd. Thankfully the individual behind us noticed my
desperately trying to plug my ears and offered me some ear plugs.
Sporting neon orange foam ear plugs and fist pumping out of sync with
the rest of the crowd, my attempts to assimilate were in vain. I have
come to the conclusion that I am far more comfortable at the Wiggles
concerts.
Although seat assignments were issued with
each ticket, I was surprised that they were rarely utilized. I
anticipated some standing and cheering, but was woefully unprepared to
stand for the duration of the concert. Standing in place is difficult
with my prosthesis. I could easily walk three hours without experiencing
the pain, numbness and tingling that ensued after I attempted to stand
and "rock out" for 30 minutes. My shifting weight from my prosthesis to
my sound side became a bit of a solitary dance as the concert
progressed. While I knew that only Scott noticed, I couldn't help but
feel out of place because of the prosthetic issue. Being an amputee
stinks when I can't find a comfortable position!
Despite
the aching limb, ringing ears and awkward fist bumping, I had a good
time at the concert. Actually, I should preface that statement by saying
that I had a good time with Scott at the concert. I still don't care
for the music, but I loved spending the evening with him. We really need
to orchestrate a date night more often. Only next time, I get to pick
the activity!
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