My friend Tammy and I have
been talking about doing something amazing for our 40th birthdays. I
suggested zip lining, bungee jumping, or even participating in a sprint
triathlon. Tammy vetoed all of my ideas and countered with going to a
winery, spending the weekend in Time Square or getting a make-over.
Obviously we have different definitions of "amazing." Undeterred, we
vowed to come up with an adventure that we could both approve.
In
the meantime, my plans for the next few years have drastically changed.
Although the impending change will dramatically impact everybody in my
family and despite being terrified, I have never been happier. Of
course, giving the current situation my plans for my 40th birthday will
have to be adjusted. According to my doctors I will be in the hospital
on my birthday giving birth to our second child.
I
am ecstatic to be expecting another child, but I also have to admit
that the prospect has me terrified. I'm considerably older now, and
there are more risks. I also know that I will probably be the oldest Mom
on the playground. Despite these fears and the potential obstacles, I
am elated.
We haven't yet told Robby that he is
going to be a big brother. I know that he will be a wonderful role
model, but I also realize that this is going to be a considerable
adjustment for him. Scott and I have decided to delay telling Robby
until we are certain that everything is okay with the pregnancy.
People
have warned me to keep my pregnancy secret in case something goes
wrong. While I understand that perspective, I also know from experience
that support is paramount when a "worst case scenario" occurs. Remaining
silent does not lessen the loss, and in many ways isolation compounds
grief. Besides, I've never been very good at secrets! I'm hoping and
preparing for the best while trying to remain cautiously optimistic.
I am looking forward to sharing this new journey through this blog.
Oh sooo happy for you both and for Robby when you eventually tell him. So excited.
ReplyDeleteOh, Peggy, that is wonderful news! Pat and I are super-awesome happy for you and your family! we're even happy for Mr. Bill, and your mom, of course. And Eliot, and the amputee group! It will be lots of fun to follow you on this adventure. Robby will adjust and eventually be thrilled to have a little sister! I've predicted the gender of several babies and my first thought when reading your news was GIRL! Please give Scott a congratulations kiss from us!
ReplyDeleteCongratulations!!! I had my last child at 38 years old, and it was, by far, one of the best things I ever did!! Best pregnancy, best delivery, and she was so warmly welcomed into the family by her siblings!! I agree totally with the gender prediction!! I felt 'GIRL' immediately!! Congratulations again!!!
ReplyDeleteThis is sooo exciting! I know that you and the baby will both be fine, and Robby will be a great big brother! Keep us posted, and congratulations!!!
ReplyDeleteThat's wonderful - congratulations!
ReplyDeleteAll the best,
sandy
HUGE CONGRATS! That is such fantastic news - how exciting! And don't worry about the boring age issue! I was four months away from my 40th when I had Rio and although I am the oldest Mum in the play ground - I don't care, because I don't feel nearly 45, and if you wanted to do something adrenalin-pumping for your BIG 4-0, then you're obviously still young at heart - but you'll obviously now have to put that on hold - maybe for your 50th or 60th?! Juliette x
ReplyDeleteCongrats! You had me worried for a few. Hey, I was 43 when my daughter was born and we're doing great, so I know you'll be great too!
ReplyDeleteTo echo everyone else, a huge congratulations is in order! My mom had me at 40, so don't worry too much! I don't know you personally (I would love to!), but from your posts over the years, you seem like the most wonderful and caring mother in the world! Robby already is -- and your new addition will be -- the luckiest and blessed children! I wish your family endless blessings, health, and happiness.
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