In my opinion, one of the worst things that can be said to somebody who is injured or ill is "It can always be worse" or "Think of how I felt when x y or z happened to me." While I understand the compulsion to want to uplift or motivate, making those comparisons does nothing to buoy my spirits. Instead, I always leave the conversation feeling deflated and frustrated that I might have been perceived as whiny.
others, I realize that my issues may be nothing more than a hiccup.
Many of my friends have been unable to wear their prosthesis or have
been dealing with chronic infections for years. Despite knowing how
lucky I am in comparison, it would be dishonest for me to deny my
feelings and frustrations. I am allowed to feel and to express all
emotions without them being trivialized!
Yes, compared to others
my issues are probably mild. Using the same logic, compared to a few
days ago my life is much more complicated. I am usually an optimistic
person, but right now I don't want to look on the bright side. When I
hear "It could be worse" and I want to scream "It could be better too!"
suspect it is human nature to want to relate and to cheer somebody. I
have learned several things during the past few weeks but perhaps one
has made the greatest impression. The next time somebody I care about is
suffering, instead of offering consolation through personal
comparisons, I'm just going to offer support and listen.