One year ago tomorrow my Mom embarked on a brave journey. Debilitated by pain, she opted for a double knee replacement in hopes of rediscovering her active lifestyle. Although the past 12 months have been anything but easy, we are all thankful that she is better off today than she was before the surgery.
Much like my first year after my amputation,
the past year has been a learning experience for my Mom. Once the
surgical pain waned, she was confronted with a harsh reality. Her knees,
although now functional, felt foreign. I can certainly relate to that
It took a long time for my residual limb to feel
like a natural part of my body. Although I wasn't in pain, I didn't feel
normal either. Slowly I began to adjust, and my amputated leg felt
normal. Although I'm now comfortable within my own skin, I have come to
realize that I will never feel like I did before my amputation. It isn't
better or worse, it's just different. For me, embracing and accepting
the differences instead of making comparisons between my pre and post
amputation life has been my key to adjustment.
occasions throughout the year I have listened to my Mom lament the
different feel of her replacement knees. They are working and she isn't
in pain, but they continue to feel unnatural. Feeling disconnected from
part of your body can be frustrating and sometimes depressing.
a family, we were prepared for the physical recovery. We had a timeline
provided by the surgeon and, although we wanted to believe that she
would progress faster than predicted, it was fairly accurate. What we
didn't realize, perhaps we were naive and ignoring the obvious, was that
the knee replacements would not immediately feel natural. The knees
will function and allow her to walk without pain, but that they will
never replace her biological joints.
Before this experience I never thought about the similarities between a
joint replacement and an amputation. Both are permanent changes within
the body, and both force the patient to adjust to a new normal. With
time, I'm sure that the replacement knees will feel more natural, just as my residual limb has become my new normal.
the physical difference, there is no doubt that the knee replacements
were a success. Last year my Mom couldn't walk her dogs up the street.
This past week she spent the afternoon walking and shopping. Her life is
fuller and more active since the surgery.
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